How to live out your faith in Jesus, even though your friends don’t like it
“I used to be one of the cool kids in school; I was very good with the boys (and the girls too). I was trendy and also full of mischief. I never missed a party.
I would pop bottles all I wanted on Fridays. Then Jesus happened. Now, my friends don’t wanna have anything to do with me again, they feel I’m so outdated and uncool to hang out with.
They would normally not say it to me verbally, but they act it out every day, making some excuses for excluding me from stuff. I feel something is wrong with me or I’m not doing things right.”
Many people can relate to this so don’t feel too bad and think “I am alone in this” because you are not alone. You can ask around about what people go through when they go in directions their friends feel are “lame” or “uncool”.
It can be very depressing if you used to have a group of friends you hang out with and because you wanna live right as a Christian, they all leave you. However, the good news is that it really won’t matter who left and who stayed at the end of it all. Look what the bible says
1 Peter 4:14 “if you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you”.
That is exactly what happens when friends leave you cos you’ve chosen to follow Christ.
You have to forgive your friends for leaving
Forgive them. They are not leaving you because they hate you; they are only leaving because they don’t understand why you. You chose to give your heart to Christ and live right as a Christian but they just don’t get it.
When people don’t understand something, they either avoid or criticise it as a defence mechanism, so forgive them.
You have to build confidence in yourself
You have to learn to be confident in yourself and your decision. I’ve been there. Most of my folks who follow Christ have been there too.
Believe me, your friends will make you feel like your decision to follow Christ is a lame one but don’t listen to them, it’s all because they don’t understand.
Be intentional about your circle of friends
Another thing you should now put in plan is to be intentional about your circle. A Christian is a Christian because of the community of other believers around.
You have to be intentional about changing the people you hang out and chill with. That is why the Bible asks “what relationship light has to do with darkness?”. Paul in the Bible did the same. When he accepted Christ, he became a lot more intentional about who his friends were.
If you can’t find Christians around you to hang out with then go online.
The world is now a global village where almost anyone from anywhere can meet. This makes it very easy to join Christian communities and forums online.
There are lots of Christian vlogs on YouTube. You can follow as many as you want. You just have to be careful who you follow so you won’t be misled.
Get into a habit of constant prayer
Learn to make prayer a part of you, as prayer is you communicating with God. When you feel sad that your friends are leaving you and you, begin to talk to God.
Tell him about what you feel at the moment you will just naturally feel not as lonely and sad as before you started praying. Prayer isn’t meant to hard work once you get into the habit, it’s just you speaking to God.
Pray about it. Trust me, it helps.
Become part of a local church with a thriving youth group
To be honest, this Christian journey could get really lonely at times, especially when you don’t have a proper support system around. Sometimes, you could feel like you’re the only one following Christ around.
The way to get around this however is by joining a good local church with a thriving youth group.
Joining a local Church also helps to make more Christian friends, the type you need to grow as a young believer.
Gradually, as you join Christian communities online and become active in your local Church, the thought of your friends that left you won’t bother you anymore.
Getting involved with folks there, you can always help each other grow and also feel less alone.
Before long, you’ll develop enough confidence on your own and start actually being the one influencing your friends by introducing them to the love of Christ.
If you also had friends leave you when you accepted Christ or chose or chose to take your commitment to Christ seriously, you should tell us in the comments section.
Someone reading might be at that place and could really use your story as an encouragement.